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My first thought would be to find a compromise BUT if there are baby blues involved you need to get that sorted out before even considering pursueing your own needs.

Talk you your other half and is you both find it hard seek proffessional advise before more serious underlying damage is done.

I speak from experiance - it took myself and my wife a couple of years to fix our marriage after our first child (resulting in a 2nd child :) ) as I could not see any problem and continued working long hours then going fishing whilst leaving her to get on with it.

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Thanks all for advice I have tried talking to he and her response is she doesn't want me to go ... Wants to spend time with me ( am home from 10 pm the night befor go to bed get up with the baby get up at 9 there all day till 3:30 when I leave for work that starts at 5:00 till 9 and then home at 10 ) it's not lie she gets enough of me , and in what phone proposed to do by give and take its more of take take take lately with her let her go out when ever she wants to and when I want to go out for a short session she has a gob on her that could turn milk to cheese . Am just at my wits end tbh guys and no amount of talking works . I love her to bits and the kids just time for me even my days off aren't my day off any more ...

HONOR IS DOING THE RIGHT THING, EVEN WHEN NOBODY IS LOOKING ...

Laugh and the world laughs with you; weep, and you weep alone.

"Yes, I will do the opposite. I used to sit here and do nothing and regret it for the rest of the day. So now i will do the opposite, and i will do something..." George Costanza

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Hate to say this mate but your last post speaks volumes. Life (and marriage) should work both ways - if what you say is accurate and truthful, then she's getting her time-out and has no justification at all for badgering you the way that you portray. You need to stand your ground: stick up for yourself and go fishing. Very few people enjoy conflict: fewer still enjoy being nagged. Continuing to let her walk all over you will serve no good purpose whatsoever, and is only likely to get worse unless the REAL problem is identified, and a proper resolution sought.

Face facts: if this was happening the other way around, YOU would be labelled as a bully and a control freak - some would even say that your behaviour was abusive.

None of these traits are exclusively male..........

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I completely agree with philocalist as does my wife (a wise woman).

 

If your wife is having post-partum blues (a very specific sort of depression) or other problems that need treatment by a specialist, we are the wrong place to come for advice and need to get her help.

 

If (as it sounds) she is simply being a bully then you need to stand on your hind legs and say what you will do. I'd expect the scowl, a rant, a cry, and other similar emotions designed to make you give in but it will be fairly short lived if you stick to your guns. Not pleasant by any means but no time like now to set things right.

" My choices in life were either to be a piano player in a whore house or a politician. And to tell the truth, there's hardly any difference!" - Harry Truman, 33rd US President

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Adam, a message from Tabby...

Send Nikki and the kids round ours. Once she's chill, we'll babysit and you can take her out for the evening.

 

As soon as she realises you're a grovelling little toad at heart, the job's a good'un!

 

:bleh::clap3::bleh::clap3::bleh::clap3:

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E-Bay is great for flogging off redundant tackle.

 

Thank goodness my wife of over forty years and four daughters married an angler, and always accepted and encouraged that. Mind you, I wanted to be there to share parenthood, it was never an issue. No advice, I'm no Claire Rayner, just a lucky man who's wife accepted and expected me to go fishing.

 

In the meantime enjoy your baby.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Thanks for all posts and issues have been sorted managed to get a days fishing in on Saturday but ended up ill after it ... Is that saying something or what !!! Been doctors and diagnosed with sinusitis :@ so on antibiotics for a week and suffering like hell !!! Unfortunately didn't catch anything on lures tried everything mustn't have been in the right place on canal next time ill be on my bike - get me further to where the bridges are smaller and canal has more foliage on opposite bank so next session is when am fit and well again unfortunatly can't take time off work so feeling worse ha ! But not going to get me down

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HONOR IS DOING THE RIGHT THING, EVEN WHEN NOBODY IS LOOKING ...

Laugh and the world laughs with you; weep, and you weep alone.

"Yes, I will do the opposite. I used to sit here and do nothing and regret it for the rest of the day. So now i will do the opposite, and i will do something..." George Costanza

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Well done on managing to get out, but a bit of a bummer catching nothing but sinusitis :(

John S

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Species caught in 2017 Common Ash, Hawthorn, Hazel, Scots Pine, White Willow.

Species caught in 2016: Alder, Blackthorn, Common Ash, Crab Apple, Left Earlobe, Pedunculate Oak, Rock Whitebeam, Scots Pine, Smooth-leaved Elm, Swan, Wayfaring tree.

Species caught in 2015: Ash, Bird Cherry, Black-Headed Gull, Common Hazel, Common Whitebeam, Elder, Field Maple, Gorse, Puma, Sessile Oak, White Willow.

Species caught in 2014: Big Angry Man's Ear, Blackthorn, Common Ash, Common Whitebeam, Downy Birch, European Beech, European Holly, Hawthorn, Hazel, Scots Pine, Wych Elm.
Species caught in 2013: Beech, Elder, Hawthorn, Oak, Right Earlobe, Scots Pine.

Species caught in 2012: Ash, Aspen, Beech, Big Nasty Stinging Nettle, Birch, Copper Beech, Grey Willow, Holly, Hazel, Oak, Wasp Nest (that was a really bad day), White Poplar.
Species caught in 2011: Blackthorn, Crab Apple, Elder, Fir, Hawthorn, Horse Chestnut, Oak, Passing Dog, Rowan, Sycamore, Willow.
Species caught in 2010: Ash, Beech, Birch, Elder, Elm, Gorse, Mullberry, Oak, Poplar, Rowan, Sloe, Willow, Yew.

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