Words fail me

[gozzer]

Judging by the number (and length) of posts, the title of this thread seems inappropriate.

 

I see it's got round to the 'smacking debate' again. I'm glad we have agreed on the word 'smack' and not substituted it with beating, thrashing, leathering etc.

 

In the last thread where this was brought up, I mentioned that along with other methods, I did on occasion find that a smack on the leg or backside, was appropriate.

I went on the describe my two kids now, and said that I must have been lucky to had raised them to be well adjusted and responsible adults.

Someone, (I think it was you Emma) said that luck had little to do with it, and thought I had brought my kids up with decency.

Is that not the opposite to what some are saying? According to some on here I should have turned my kids into bullies, who terrorized the community.

 

I think it's time people stopped trying to score points by the use of exaggerated examples, and concede that there are parents and kids that respond/react to different things, (not always in a negative way). I knew what was a 'punishment' to my kids, the same thing wasn't to some of their mates.

I took responsibility for the welfare and upbringing of them, and as such I deemed what was appropriate at the time. If I thought the situation could be brought under control with a sharp word, then that was what was used. If I thought a 'smack' was necessary then that was used. I was the parent and as such used my judgement at the time.

If I had to do it all over again, I would make the same judgements, based on the same situations, and hopefully have the same results. Regardless of what any bystander thought or said.

 

John.

Edited March 15, 2009 by gozzer

[Worms]

I think it's time people stopped trying to score points by the use of exaggerated examples, and concede that there are parents and kids that respond/react to different things, (not always in a negative way). I knew what was a 'punishment' to my kids, the same thing wasn't to some of their mates.

I took responsibility for the welfare and upbringing of them, and as such I deemed what was appropriate at the time. If I though the situation could be brought under control with a sharp word, then that was what was used. If I thought a 'smack' was necessary then that was used. I was the parent and as such used my judgement at the time.

If I had to do it all over again, I would make the same judgements, based on the same situations, and hopefully have the same results. Regardless of what any bystander thought or said.

 

John.

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[kleinboet]

Well done John - I totally agree - we were being demonised for using what we thought (and proved with our children) was a good way of raising our kids!!

Edited March 15, 2009 by kleinboet

[Rich_]

It is the mentality of those who drop dogs from great heights for fun that is most worrying, but this type of person has always been there along with the other criminal elements & always will be regardless of the deterrents.

 

I reckon the problem of discipline has as much to do with the society that has been allowed to develop over the last 30 or 40 years as it has with the way people are punished, the old social values have gone out the window . We have gone from hangings & corporal punishment, to a point where the offender is seen as a victim of circumstance and has more rights than the rest of us, or so it seems, this makes the parent/teacher/police feel reluctant to take any corrective action at all, and some of the rest of us are frustrated to the point where we suggest extreme solutions.

 

The answer must be in the middle ground somewhere, but that will mean taking at least one step back the other way. Obviously the way we have been dealing with bad behaviour is not working.

Edited March 16, 2009 by Rich_

[chesters1]

what about donkey dropping

[gozzer]

what about donkey droppings

 

I've heard it's good for the roses.

 

Or is that Bull S**t?

 

 

John.

Edited March 16, 2009 by gozzer