Question. To smack children (or not)

[Eddie]

*Anthony*:

I think the idea is not to hurt or damage but to shock.

They have'nt outlawed electrocution yet then?

[nursejudy]

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Interesting, might target a slapper or two myself. Are there any lurking on AN perchance?

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Try the nasty thread

 

judy

[corydoras]

But I don't want a nasty one, I want a nice one :cool:

[bluezulu]

corydoras:

But I don't want a nasty one, I want a nice one :cool:

yeh, try the nasty thread!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

we are waiting for ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[little onions]

Whilst I agree that setting firm boundaries for children's behaviour is essential for their wellbeing and social development, I feel that smacking a child is a misuse of adult strength and utterly contrary to the ground rules that hopefully are set for their behaviour.

I cannot condone violence as an appropriate tool for the resolution of conflict.

[kleinboet]

Little Onions - If you are in the middle of, let's say Tescos, and your child suddenly decides he/she wants chocolate NOW and starts screaming blue murder for it and anything you say is ignored, what are you going to do?? There are times when they will act as kids and not as little adults. Talking to them is fine most of the time, but when they won't listen - what then?

 

[ 24. June 2004, 06:54 AM: Message edited by: kleinboet ]

[severus]

When I was in school I had a gym teacher who owned a huge wooden paddle with holes drilled in it, and he often opened a can of whup-ass on unfortunate wrongdoers that he caught. The threat of that paddle kept me in line, especially after seeing the outline of that paddle on the arses of others. Was it wrong? I think not. He wanted discipline and respect, and he got it, even if he was a sadistic SOB.

 

I knew not to get caught, anyhow!

[little onions]

Kleinboet, I have 6 children and at some stage or other each of them have thrown tantrums. In the Tesco's situation I would abandon my trolley, tuck the child under one arm and leave the store, thereby removing any 'audience'. Once outside the store I would kneel to enable eye contact with the child, very firmly say, "Stop it now," and then use a distraction technique such as, "Look at that dog, I think the person who owns it must be inside the shop, what do you think?", or walk up and down for a while keeping my voice calm and talking about anything of interest.

I would then tell the child that we are going back into the store to finish the shopping and that if they behaved I might buy some chocolate for them to have after they had eaten their tea.

[corydoras]

severus:

When I was in school I had a gym teacher who owned a huge wooden paddle with holes drilled in it, and he often opened a can of whup-ass on unfortunate wrongdoers that he caught. The threat of that paddle kept me in line, especially after seeing the outline of that paddle on the arses of others. Was it wrong? I think not. He wanted discipline and respect, and he got it, even if he was a sadistic SOB.

 

I knew not to get caught, anyhow!

Sounds to me as if your gym teacher was a perv who should be on the Sex Offenders Register.

[corydoras]

little onions:

Kleinboet, I have 6 children and at some stage or other each of them have thrown tantrums. In the Tesco's situation I would abandon my trolley, tuck the child under one arm and leave the store, thereby removing any 'audience'. Once outside the store I would kneel to enable eye contact with the child, very firmly say, "Stop it now," and then use a distraction technique such as, "Look at that dog, I think the person who owns it must be inside the shop, what do you think?", or walk up and down for a while keeping my voice calm and talking about anything of interest.

I would then tell the child that we are going back into the store to finish the shopping and that if they behaved I might buy some chocolate for them to have after they had eaten their tea.

You tell him Little Onions, that is the way it should be done.

 

For the life of me I could never work out why parents who feel the need to whack their kids brought them to Asda to do it