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Hi guys been a good few months now since I have managed to eat out for a proper session with work and family matters , so I suggested yesterday that I could go befor work spinning just take a rod and few lures and the nesisary equipment minus a landing net as would try and unhook any fish in the water still . But as soon as I go to get ready today WWIII KICKS OFF she doesn't want me to go , doesn't want me to leave , doesn't want me to do a F@*#!] thing it seams !!! How do I get her to realise my life is her and the kids 24 b()£% 7 now a days and I need some time to clear my head ! Why can she not get that ? Guys n Galls any advice on this matter would be greatly appreciated as its getting me down thy my gear is just sitting in the kitchen taunting me !!!

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I do mate even make the bottles for the baby and do every night feed !!! Have done since she was 3 months old !!! Stopped me from going night fishing !!!!

HONOR IS DOING THE RIGHT THING, EVEN WHEN NOBODY IS LOOKING ...

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Early in the morning give her a nudge to wake her up then say "Sex or fishing?". With luck she'll even make your sarnies for you :)

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Species caught in 2017 Common Ash, Hawthorn, Hazel, Scots Pine, White Willow.

Species caught in 2016: Alder, Blackthorn, Common Ash, Crab Apple, Left Earlobe, Pedunculate Oak, Rock Whitebeam, Scots Pine, Smooth-leaved Elm, Swan, Wayfaring tree.

Species caught in 2015: Ash, Bird Cherry, Black-Headed Gull, Common Hazel, Common Whitebeam, Elder, Field Maple, Gorse, Puma, Sessile Oak, White Willow.

Species caught in 2014: Big Angry Man's Ear, Blackthorn, Common Ash, Common Whitebeam, Downy Birch, European Beech, European Holly, Hawthorn, Hazel, Scots Pine, Wych Elm.
Species caught in 2013: Beech, Elder, Hawthorn, Oak, Right Earlobe, Scots Pine.

Species caught in 2012: Ash, Aspen, Beech, Big Nasty Stinging Nettle, Birch, Copper Beech, Grey Willow, Holly, Hazel, Oak, Wasp Nest (that was a really bad day), White Poplar.
Species caught in 2011: Blackthorn, Crab Apple, Elder, Fir, Hawthorn, Horse Chestnut, Oak, Passing Dog, Rowan, Sycamore, Willow.
Species caught in 2010: Ash, Beech, Birch, Elder, Elm, Gorse, Mullberry, Oak, Poplar, Rowan, Sloe, Willow, Yew.

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Early in the morning give her a nudge to wake her up then say "Sex or fishing?". With luck she'll even make your sarnies for you

 

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Advice, seriously? Find out what the problem REALLY is here: I'm guessing that the fact that you're going fishing has nothing at all to do with it and the problem lies a bit deeper - as someone else has said, could be a bit of the post natal blues / depression creeping up on her.

That said, what do you think would actually happen if YOU put your foot down and went? - it's pre-work, so hardly encroaching on anything she may want to do? Have you actually asked her, specifically, WHY she doesn't want you to go?

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Adam,

 

No "right" way bud. No one knows what's behind closed doors at your house. After my 5th one I found this worked pretty well for me. Nothing "official" but we discussed the purpose of me giving her a day off (ok so sometimes it cost me 2 days for one). A whole day may be out of the question, but surely you can give your partner an afternoon to spend time with her friends or even just to have a nap, while you take care of baby(s). Her getting out of the house seemed to work best! Use a friggin breast pump if you have to.

 

A treat for a treat.

 

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I can give you some 20/20 hindsight. Tell her what you are going to do and then do it. Phone's idea of discussing a trade-off of some sort is good but if she balks, just load up and go fishing. She will probably (after getting mad & getting over it) decide that Phone's method is good.

 

1st wife - I didn't insist and things got worse, not better. We divorced after a number of years and I realise now I was what is known on this side of the pond as "hen pecked". Neither of us respected me for being a wimp.

2nd wife - I married a gal that loved to fish and understood we both needed space. She died (much to my everlasting sorrow)

3rd (current) wife - I married a gal that loved to fish, understood we both needed space at times, and thought that it was a great idea for us to have the space we needed when we needed it.

 

Note: 1st wife is still alive and we are probably better friends than when we were married.

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